Dan Savage: There Are 'Corners' of Gay Bars Off-Limits to Women

Dan Savage called it the piece "that launched a thousand posts on gay blogs": an Out.com op-ed titled "Dear Gay Men, Stop Telling Women They Can't Be in Gay Bars."

There was indeed much outrage in response to the article, which called men who didn't like women in gay bars misognyistic. "If you can't dance to some shitty house song or go down on a stranger just because a woman is in the room, you need to examine what that says about you, not call for that woman's removal," declared Rose Domuu.

However, Savage was impressed with one response to Domuu's piece in particular. In his most recent episode of Savage Lovecast — a weekly podcast hosted by the sex columnist — Savage brought on writer Alexander Cheves, who recently penned an op-ed for The Advocate, "Straight Folks, There Are Some Spaces You Don't Belong In." 

"The fact is, everyone needs permission to be in bars that don’t cater to them. You are a guest. There are cultural zones for certain demographics that are intentionally exclusionary — not out of hate, fear, or prejudice, but because everyone deserves space, and you must respect it," Cheves wrote. Read more and listen to the interview via the Advocate