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Here's How Our Readers Are Thinking About Sex And Consent More than 30,000 people shared their thoughts. Tomi Obaro is a senior culture editor for BuzzFeed and is based in New York.
Realizing I’m Bisexual Helped Me Learn How To Have The Sex I Wanted I’ve learned that the key to good sex isn’t finding The One — it’s being honest about what I want, and what I don’t. Krutika Mallikarjuna is currently the features editor at TVGuide.com. You can also find her bylines at Shondaland, Teen Vogue, BuzzFeed, and Inverse, but undoubtedly her best writing is in drunk live-tweet form @krutika.
When You’re An Asexual Assault Survivor, It’s Even Harder To Be Heard Some asexual people say they've been pressured into sex, or assaulted or raped by people trying to "correct" their identities — and afterward, they still aren't believed. Julie Kliegman is a copy editor for The Ringer based in Queens, New York. Her work has also appeared in outlets including Vulture, BuzzFeed, The Verge, The Week, Washington Monthly, Vox, the Tampa Bay Times and PolitiFact.
Three Straight Men Talk About Their Sexual Histories The point isn’t to defend or denounce these men, but to understand them. Liza Veale is an award-winning reporter, covering mostly housing and homelessness in the Bay Area for KALW Public Radio. She’s also a reporter with the national radio show Philosophy Talk.
When You Have 3 Boyfriends, Getting An IUD Is Complicated Because I'm polyamorous, my decision to get on birth control had to go through an unusual chain of command. Rachel Cromidas a writer, reporter, and editor in Chicago. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal and the Chicago Tribune. She most recently served as the editor-in-chief of the local news site Chicagoist.
I'm Obsessed With These 1970s Cosmo Covers These magazine covers — simultaneously smart and dumb, progressive and retrograde — are a Rosetta stone for understanding sex and womanhood in the Me Decade. Abbey Bender is a writer based in New York. Her work has appeared in the Village Voice, the Washington Post, Time Out New York, Nylon, and other publications.
How I've Navigated Sex And Consent As A Hard-Of-Hearing Person Being hard of hearing means that I miss some things in bed. But sometimes our supposed limitations can give us our most creative advantages. Anna Pulley is a freelance writer in Oakland and author of The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!), which Cheryl Strayed called a “must-read,” Tegan and Sara said was “an adorable and hilarious way to start the day,” and Jennifer Tilly said was “thoroughly charming.”
Porn Stars Are Now Making Content Just For You — For A Price “You can’t pirate someone saying your name.” Blake Montgomery is a reporter for BuzzFeed News and is based in San Francisco. He's an author of the nonfiction graphic novel A Place Among the Stars and a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Stanford's creative writing program.
Having Sex When Your Partner Is The Same Gender, But A Different Size I thought I was ashamed of my body because the straight world told me to be. But it wasn't that simple. Lauren Strapagiel is a reporter for BuzzFeed News and is based in Toronto, Canada.
Sex Toys Will Never Be Able To Do The Hardest Work For You In the years I worked at a sex shop, I saw how the pressure to have great sex — in a world that will never be a level playing field — can inflict its own kind of damage. Fancy Feast is a professional burlesque performer, sex educator, and Miss Coney Island 2016. She is currently working on her first book. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
"I Saw Kink In God": Dominatrixes And Their Orthodox Jewish Clients "Hasids are outsiders in New York, and so are sex workers. So, I think they maybe see us in a weird way as outlaws, like them." Hannah Frishberg is a fourth-generation Brooklynite and freelance reporter. Her work has appeared in the New York Post, CityLab, and the Columbia Journalism Review. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
Why Some Guys Like Jerking Off Together I went looking for other men who consider mutual masturbation an important sexual experience in its own right. John Sherman is a writer based in NYC.